Real Client Stories

Many clients share their journey and their experience with Dr. Rita in hope that you can also find help in overcoming whatever you may be facing. The following is chronicle of the journey of one couple. Please check the dropdown menu above for more true stories and a few analogies that Dr. Rita uses.

Sex Abuse Victim

I spent thirty years of my life being abused and I also spent thirty years of my life trying to minimize the damage that the abuse caused.  After I became a Christian, it became easier to minimize the damage, because anytime I would think of all the horrible things that happened to me, I would remember the scripture in Philippians 3:14 that says to forget those things that are behind us.  If I had any problems that had anything to do with the abuse, I learned that I was free from my past.  I have learned over the past months that to get rid of my pain I must face it and it must be brought to the light of Jesus.  Truth and light is the way to healing, not hiding.

Although I had been a Christian for many years, there were a lot of areas that I struggled in.  I had a lot of problems with my emotions being out of control.  I could not trust people and any kind of criticism would send me on a crying jag for days.  I always felt like there was something terribly wrong with me.  I would never have guessed that all of those problems had something to do with my abuse.

I am so very thankful that I had a Pastor who loved me enough to stop me from my self destructive ways.  I remember sitting in his office and him telling me that I needed to go to counseling.  I remember being so angry and so afraid.  I spent two months trying to persuade him that I did not have a problem and he spent two months telling me I did.

One day I was at the Bible bookstore looking at books.  I picked up a book called “The Wounded Heart”.  It was a book about sexual abuse.  As I read it, the Lord spoke to me and told me how much he loved me and how he wanted to heal my wounded heart, finally I began my journey of healing.  What a wonderful powerful God we serve.

At the next meeting with my Pastor, he prayed with me that I would be able to find a counselor I could trust.  I found the listings for different places, and when I read about Trinity Counseling, I felt the Lord speak to me and tell me that Rita was the person he wanted me to see.  I had not told my Pastor yet and at my next meeting with him he gave me a paper that had a testimony of a girl that was sexually abused.  At the bottom of the paper it said Trinity Counseling.  It was the confirmation I needed.

I remember my first meeting with Dr. Rita, I was so frightened.  It makes me laugh now, because every week I look forward to my time with Rita. Dr. Rita has helped me to face my past.  By facing my abuse God has healed me of so many things.

When I was abused I learned to deaden my emotions just so I could survive what was happening to me.  The sad part is, I spent most of my life trying to hide from the painful emotions that were locked inside of me.  Rita helped me to see that it was healing to release those emotions.

Before I came to counseling I always had so much sadness, even when I was happy there would be a part of me that felt so sad.  For the first time in my life I am actually able to feel pure joy.  The place of sadness is gone.

Another thing that has happened is that I can cry without feeling guilty.  I was always taught that it was wrong to cry.  Every time I would cry I would feel so guilty and I would feel like something was wrong with me, but I have learned from Rita that God gave us tears for a reason.  They are given to wash away toxic emotions.  When we repress them we just shove all those toxic emotions inside of us.  Even Jesus wept.  I cry a lot now, but most of the time they are tears of joy and tears because I feel so overwhelmed about how great God is.

One of the most wonderful things God has done is he has taken away the condemnation I felt.  I used to sit in a room with people and all I could think of was how inferior I felt and how everybody in that room did not like me and would rather not be with me.  Even when I was with family or close friends I would feel that way.  As I began to face my abuse those feelings began to subside.  My most wonderful gift at Christmas was that my Pastor took my husband and I out to supper and I sat in the room and I actually felt totally loved and accepted.  It was such a wonderful victory.

I am so thankful that I am able to share my feelings more openly.  I had always been very distant even with my own family.  Since God has began healing my heart, my relationship with my children has also changed immensely.

I am very thankful that God has changed my relationship with friends and family, but the relationship that has changed the most is my relationship with Him.  Even though I had been a Christian for 25 years, I had always loved God from a distance.  I knew that He loved me, but I thought that He could never truly understand how I felt, because He had never gone through the things I had gone through.  One day as I was talking to God, I began to think of a terribly abusive situation I had gone through.  I said, “Lord, they beat me and almost killed me.” And He showed me Jesus being beaten.  Then I said to Him, “Lord they made fun of me the whole time they were abusing me.”  And the Lord showed me how the soldiers had mocked His Son the whole time they were beating Him.  I said, “Lord, after two days of tortuous abuse they threw me to the side of the road like a piece of trash.”  God showed me that they had treated His Son the same way.  That He come to this earth to die for us and people treated Him like a piece of trash.  I said, “God, you can totally understand how it feels to be tortured and abused, but how can you ever understand how it feels to be sexually abused.  He spoke to me and said, " I do understand how it feels to be sexually abused.  They ripped off all my clothes and I stood before people naked and exposed.”  Those two words ripped through my heart, because those were the two words any sexual assault victim feels.  Naked and exposed.  That day began a new and much deeper relationship with my Lord.  He truly had partaken in the same suffering that I had felt and He had done it willingly.  I had been forced to participate, but He had willingly submitted to that kind of pain so I could be free. 

Today I stand before you a free woman who is being healed of a very wounded heart.  My freedom happened because of the love of a Pastor, the guidance of a wonderful Godly counselor, but most of all because of a wonderful, loving God.

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