Real Client Stories

Many clients share their journey and their experience with Dr. Rita in hope that you can also find help in overcoming whatever you may be facing. The following is chronicle of the journey of one couple. Please check the dropdown menu above for more true stories and a few analogies that Dr. Rita uses.

Marriage Counseling

His story

Ever since we moved to Michigan, we experienced one hardship after another. We came to Michigan so that my wife could go to law school. I managed to find a job to support my wife through law school and to provide for my family with four children. It was very hard because the job was not paying very well. Then the work hours kept being cut shorter and shorter, so my income was insufficient to support the whole family. Eventually, I lost my job and I was on unemployment. In the mist of these financial difficulties stress was building from law school, so my wife and I argued every night. We knew we had to get help. That was when we walked into Dr. Rita’s counseling clinic.

While we were in counseling, I found another job with limited income. Dr. Rita used the Silver Lining Scholarship Fund to help us pay part of the counseling fee. For that we are very grateful, we would not have been able to receive help without the scholarship fund. The first sessions were very rough because we continued to argue in the sessions as usual. Dr. Rita identified our communication problem and coached us how to talk to each other. We tried to apply those skills. Sometimes it worked; but other times it didn’t because we were so used to our old way of communicating.

I felt very inadequate as a husband and a father because my wife continually found fault in me. She had angry outbursts whenever she did not get her way. I felt like I was walking on eggshells trying to please her, yet constantly failing. Especially when it was her exam week, everyone in the family was yelled at.

My wife yelled at me at home and my boss yelled at me at work. I just wanted to hide in my mother’s basement and escape from reality. I knew I needed to take care of my family, but it was too hard. I contemplated filing for divorce. But I realized I still loved my wife even though she was an angry person. I felt trapped.

Individual sessions with Dr. Rita helped me to realize that I was responsible for some of my wife’s anger. Whenever she expressed her feelings to me, I could not wait to defend myself to justify my position. This was a result of having a mother who was verbally abusive towards me as a child. Whenever I saw people’s facial expression showing any kind of unhappiness, I immediately interpreted it as an attack so I needed to defend myself. When I started to listen first and allow my wife to express her feelings instead of simply defending myself, her anger outburst became less and less.

Our communication has been improving, and then I lost my job again. We could not come for counseling any more for we had used up all the sessions that were provided by the scholarship fund. But we started seriously using the techniques we learned in the past couple joint sessions. We started praying together often as Dr. Rita suggested during our sessions with her. When all the doors seemed shut to us, God opened another way. God wanted to send both of us away from our extended family and move to a different state. I got a job there and my wife got an internship there. Our relationship is better than ever. If we did not have God or Dr. Rita, our marriage probably would be dissolved by now and my children would be suffering. We are very happy together now.

Her story:

I was under tremendous stress going through law school; but I know I had to get through it so that our family could have a better life. With my husband‘s job being so unstable, I was afraid I would not be able to finish law school. My frustration turned into anger and my family had to deal with my anger during the time I had to prepare for the examinations. I knew I had anger problems, but I could not seem to be able to control it. I requested to have a few individual sessions with Dr. Rita to work on my anger problem.

My father left my mom and me when I was a little girl. My mother had to work so hard to support us that I was often by myself. I determined to study hard as a child to make something out of myself. I did not want to grow up being poor. Being a high achiever was also a way to cope with my emotional pain of being abandoned. That is why I had so much fear of being a failure. My fear was overwhelming me so much that it turned into anger. Once I realized this through counseling, my husband and I were able to talk about our schedule each week so that I had enough time to prepare for all my exams. I was feeling a little more relaxed.

I told Dr. Rita about situations when I had angry outbursts. She found out it all centered on abandonment issues. Dr. Rita helped me to find ways to deal with those situations when my husband was late coming home or late coming to bed with me. Now I started to feel like I was more in control of my life. I can take responsible for my own feelings rather than blaming others for my reactions.

Our communication is a lot better than before as we used the techniques we learned in the sessions. We can actually discuss problems and come into a resolution. We have never done that throughout our marriage.

Our financial situation is a lot better than before. Our relationship with God is much stronger. God did not move us to a different state and give us stable jobs until our relationship was reconciled. It was so amazing that God worked things out in a miraculous way. We were once at the end of the rope, God showed us that He was there holding us. We think about Dr. Rita often, our family would be broken without her help.

  • The Hippo Story

    At one time or another, you will encounter a troubling relationship. It may be with your spouse, a young or adult child, employee, student or friend. You wonder what is at the root of the problem, and try as you may to do the right thing, you cannot ignore the fact that there is trouble. The Hippo Story presented in this show demonstrates how you can improve relationships with those around you by capturing their hearts. You will find it easy to identify with and learn from these real-life situations. By understanding the Hippo Story, you will unlock the key to some of your rocky relationships. Click here to listen to the Hippo Story

  • The Cow Story

    No two human beings are exactly the same. The many differences include family background, personalities, different ways of handling things, and various points of view. The list goes on and on. Because of this, it is impossible for two people to always agree with each other, and at some point, conflict will arise. When not properly addressed, resentment builds which can injure both the relationship and the person holding the grudge. These injuries have the potential to cause damage emotionally, physically and mentally. The Cow Story describes real-life conflicts between a father and a son, between two children, two young adults, and two older adults. Audiences of all ages will be able to relate to this analogy and will recognize themselves somewhere in the story. At the end, basic principles are given which will help you resolve conflicts in an effective manner. Click here to listen to the Cow Story television episode

  • Blue Dots and White Wall

    Positive perfectionism may lead to worldly successes, but can also be damaging when not channeled correctly. Negative perfectionism can cause damage to you physically, emotionally and mentally. Today's analog story, the Blue Dots and the White Wall, is told to help you to understand how perfectionism can be harmful for you. Real-life scenarios, developed and written by Dr. Rita were gleaned from years of counseling and are shared her to help you understand why perfectionism has caused you to be the way you are today. You may recognized yourself in one of these characters. The Blue Dots and the White Wall is staged at an airport where there are perfectionists of all ages. At the end of the show, tips will be given on how to prevent yourself from being trapped by your perfectionism, so be sure to stay tuned. Click here to listen to the Blue Dots and White Wall Story

  • The Boomerang Story

    Perhaps you know someone who likes to point a finger and makes an accusation. May be it is you who is being blames. The truth is, it never feel good to be the one getting the blame. Today's analogy story, the Boomerang Story, Dr. Rita reveals four types of blamer: the Irresponsible Blamer, the Passive/Aggressive Blamer, Should Blamer, and the Victimized Blamer. Discovering the reason why someone likes to blame not only helps you understand him/her, it also helps you to not to blame others. Blamer feels better when they think someone else is at fault. However, although blaming makes them feel more free, it is a temporary emotions that often ends up with them feeling more trapped in the end. Stay tuned after the story to learn how you can be freed from the debilitation effects of blaming and being blamed. We all have been on both sides, so don't be surprised if you recognize yourself in one of the characters.
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  • Mr. Green Square and Miss Green Circle

    Have you ever wished for someone else to change? You believe that if he or she would change, your life would be much easier. In fact, you may spend your whole life trying to get him/her to change, but without much success. So you are very frustrated. In this show, the analogy story of Mr. Green Square and Miss Green Circle demonstrates how two very different people finally learned how to get along. This real-life scenario was developed and written by Dr. Rita. People from all walks of life are presented here in a variety of settings, making it easy to relate to. Settings include in a couple's home, in a house with children, in a school, in the workplace and in a shopping mall, and each demonstrates two people who struggle to get along because of their differences. You will relate to this story and learn how to better get along with those who are different. Click here to listen to Mr. Green Square and Miss Gree Circle

  • Relational Circles

    Relationships are often the most stressful parts of our existence. Do you have any unhealthy relationship that cause you undue stress? Relationships can be healthy or unhealthy, and they usually falls into one of four categories or circles: Intimate, close, causal or acquaintance. It is when we try to move our relationships into a circle that is not supposed to inhabit that we often end up frustrated and disappointed, This Relationship Circle analogy describes socially unhealthy relationships and teaches you how to break those bad cycles. Developed in story from real-life scenarios, Dr. Rita describes three types of personalities, the People Pleaser, the Loner, and the Admirer. All these individual struggle through life until they learn, and apply, concepts geared towards healing. In the end, everyone learns how to make healthy changes in their Relationship Circles and their lives become happier..Click here to listen to the Relational Circles.

  • The Train Story Story

    Prolonged anger damages a person physically, emotionally and socially. It can be the cause of your physical ailment, emotional disturbance or social isolation. This analogy, the Train Story, explains how to stop your anger before it negatively affects you. This show discusses real-life scenarios that were developed from counseling sessions and written by Dr. Rita. Here, people who were damaged physically, emotionally, and socially due to their anger problems learned to overcome this debilitating emotion. You may recognize yourself in one of these examples. Each character in the Train Story learns to deal effectively with his or her anger and as a result, begins life anew.Click here to listen to the Boomerang Story.

  • The Squirrel Story

    Each of us make decisions every day, and while each decision impacts those around us to some degree, some are life-altering for everyone involved. Some people make decisions easily and quickly while others others struggles. Your probably learn one way or the other most of the time, but some things are more easily decided than others. In today's analogy, the Squirrel Story, two squirrels play out this real-life dilemma. One squirrel is nervously indecisive while the other is quickly decisive. Real-life scenarios describe the meaning of the Squirrel Story, which was developed and written by Dr. Rita through years of counseling. We will discover why some people react to decision-making the way they do, and we'll learn the characteristics each type of decision-maker possesses. You may even recognize yourself in one of the characters. Stay tuned after the story to hear helpful tips on how to implement these healing strategies into your own life.. Click here to listen to the Squirrel Story

  • The Grey Zone

    The way we think determines how we perceive our situation. When we think positively, we deal with trials differently than when we think negatively. Thoughts which are extreme, whether good or bad, are considered to be black and white thoughts. Those who think dichotomously see things in terms of good or bad, right or wrong, love or hate........with nothing in between. The analogy of the Grey Zone will help you see if you are this type of thinker. Don't be surprised if you recognize yourself in one of the stories presented today. These healing narratives describe how each individual recognized that he or she was in a black and white thinking process, and how they each learned to gear their thoughts process towards healthy, balanced, grey thoughts. Developed and written by Dr. Rita, these situations were gleaned from counseling sessions in the hopes of helping attain healthy relationships while living life in the Grey Zone. Click here to listen to the Grey Zone

  • The Back Pack Story

    Stress often happen when you take on problems that belong to someone else, such as trying to change someone's behavior, trying to be friends with everyone, trying to manage other people's feelings, or even trying to solve their problems. Living this way demands energy you do not have, and you end up not even being able to handle your own problems. This analogy represents those who tries to carry problems for others and ends up losing themselves. The real-life scenarios illustrates the meaning of the Back Pack story, and represents three types of individuals, the People Pleaser, Back Pack carrier, Rescuer Back Pack carrier and Co-Dependent Back Pack carrier. You will see how much stress, pain and agony you bring yourself when you take on the affairs of someone else. At the end of the show, you will learn ways to change this life style and live a more healthy and happy life. Click here to listen to the Back Pack Story

  • The Twilight Zone

    If you are depressed, anxious or struggling with an addiction. It is common to feel worse at certain times throughout the course of your day. During these down-times, you may experience an increased number of negative or tempting thoughts, which can leave you feeling overwhelmed and out of control. How do you get out of this rut? Today's analogy story, the Twilight Zone, will now be told. Using real-life scenarios to emphasize the story's meaning, Dr. Rita developed this narrative from years of counseling sessions. Don't be surprised if you identify with one of these characters. In today's show, you will observe people in an office building, people of all ages and from all walks of lives who are struggling in their own Twilight Zone. See sure to stay tuned at the end of the show for exciting and helpful tips to help you get out of your own Twilight Zone. Click here to listen to the Twilight Zone